Is it really bad that I don’t know the actual date? Pretty sure it’s the 27th of this month but I can never remember! I’m the first to admit that I’m not a big believer in the institution of marriage. Personally, it was never something I coveted or that I was ever really bothered about. What I wanted more than anything was a partner who loved me for me, made me feel safe and who I could start a family and build a life with. However, reaching that stage in our relationship was important to Michael, so I agreed to do it his way. Also, you’know, the jewellery!
It was a small affair, nothing too fancy, but it suited us perfectly. Ideally I would have preferred just to go to a registry office or even Las Vegas and get married by Elvis while in my favourite pair of jeans! (I know, all class, amiright?) But I have absolutely no regrets about our day. It really was wonderful.
I don’t mean to sound flippant when I say this, but it doesn’t really matter to me if we’re married or not. Our views differ a lot, especially on this subject, so it’s more than okay if yours do too. I kinda’ like that Michael is fairly traditional. It’d be boring if we all felt the same.
Personally, I’m not a huge romantic. That suits Hubby quite well since he’s also pretty lazy when it comes to the card stuff! However, I do consider our first date to be our proper anniversary. I always acknowledge it and prefer to celebrate that day because it is so special to me. It was the day my life changed for the better. I’ve been with this man for nearly twelve years and although he drives me crazy sometimes, I still know I got real lucky.
We’re alike but also opposite in our natures. I’m still learning to let go of some control, while Michael has stepped up. We have different opinions about things and we seem to be able to balance our strengths and weaknesses.
We’ve shared seven pregnancies, nine houses, three cats and a whole lot of laughs. There’s been tears of sadness and of joy. There’s been journeys like no other and lessons learnt. Our relationship has had ups and downs. We’ve been madly in love and, last year, even talked about separating. I honestly don’t think we could live without each other. We appreciate all that we have, what we have built and what we will achieve as a team.
The only thing I’d change is Michael’s inability to eat fish. Oh, and maybe being unable to put his dirty clothes in the hamper! Relatively small stuff in the grand scheme of things!
Happy anniversary Babycakes – for sometime this week…