I’ve really struggled to write this post, but I felt that I just HAD to. I feel so passionate about this particular subject – marriage equality – that articulating my thoughts and feelings on this extremely important issue has been challenging for me. I wanted to avoid going on a massive rant and simply communicate what I see in my head and heart.
I don’t normally write about things going on in politics but in this instance I can’t not! In case you didn’t know, Australia is currently in the midst of a debate regarding legalising same-sex marriage. Basically, what this means is that instead of the government addressing the issue head on, it has decided to (according to media reports) allocate roughly $122 million dollars to run a postal vote on whether gay marriage should finally be legalised.
I understand the need for democracy, I do, I do. But in this case I just can’t wrap my head around it all. To me it’s a no-brainer for several reasons but the main one being that as long as a wedding/marriage is between two consenting adults then who really gives a fudge? It’s certainly none of my business.
One argument I’ve heard against marriage equality is that it goes against “traditional values”. By that token perhaps we should also start shaming single or unwed mothers again. Maybe go one step further and take away a woman’s ability to vote or work.
Personally, I don’t believe religion has a place in politics. In a progressive country with multiple nationalities, cultures and religions the government should cater in a way that doesn’t penalise one particular community based on their own personal religious beliefs. In order to be fair to everyone it should remain impartial.
If someone of a religious denomination wants to deny their services when a couple approaches to be married by them then that is their right. For example, a straight couple may not always be married by someone who isn’t of the same faith. However, a celebrant, one who is of no specific faith is able to legally marry two people. Actually, where do I sign up to do this?
Same-sex couples are actually already recognised as defacto spouses LEGALLY and for tax purposes (and within the banking sector as another example). So it seems to me, that at the moment, we’re living in a double standard. The government be all like, “yes, we fully accept that you are a couple and contributing to society but no no no, we couldn’t possibly let you do this other thing that has no bearing on us whatsoever”.
I have friends and family members who are in same-sex relationships, so whether they want to get married or not, the choice sure would be nice, wouldn’t it? Imagine not even having the right to do something based on something that cannot be controlled. Doesn’t that sound crazy? I mean, everyone has the right to read or not read my blog. Do we know the reasons why someone might choose to read or not read it? No. Does it matter? Not really. The point I’m making is, is that the choice is a personal one and it doesn’t concern anyone else.
I’d like to end by saying that I grew up with people who are gay. Men and women who were my best friends at school and college and who helped shape me as a person. I think really highly of them, their sexuality doesn’t factor in, it’s because of who they are as individuals.
Love is love and I really believe that you don’t choose who you are attracted to. This isn’t about marriage equality, it’s just about equality. By telling one group that they don’t have the same rights as another group is just plain wrong. It’s unfair and that is something I cannot stay quiet about.
Hubby and I will be voting a big fat YES!